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10 Steps to self-care & how it benefits you

Shirley Mclellan • 8 July 2021
Self-care: isn’t it just another new pseudo-psychological term? 

In today’s post, we look at the benefits of self-care, why it isn’t selfish to spend time nurturing your health and hopes, and how self-care can be the best gift you give to others.  

What is self-care?

Self-care has been defined as providing adequate attention to one's own physical and psychological wellness (Beauchamp & Childress, 2001). 

It isn’t just another New Age word for being utterly selfish; there are huge benefits to be gained from being kind to yourself. In fact, the benefits extend beyond the individual to all the people in their world. So, by being kind to yourself, you’re also being kind to others. 

There’s no mystery to it; self-care simply means taking care of yourself. The key, however, is that you do this consciously.  

3 aspects of self-care

Self-care means being aware of how you are on a mental, emotional and physical level (and for some, a spiritual level), and ensuring that each of these aspects of yourself is supporting the other. 

For example, think about whether your thoughts make you happy or keep you stuck in the past; are you motivated enough to go out and get some exercise? 

Consider the following: 

• Are you taking an active role in your health and wellbeing? Pay yourself some much-needed attention and taking a break when you need to. Focus on things that make you feel content and invigorated. 

• Self-care applies to people who are perfectly healthy as well as to those with minor ailments or even more serious health complaints. 

If you’re on medication or under medical supervision, self-care means you make choices that support your health and treatment, such as remembering to take pills, sticking to any instructions about your diet or not consuming alcohol, and so on. 

For people who want to maintain good health or those with niggling aches and pains or relatively minor health issues, such as a headache, cold or a sprain, self-care is about choosing to treat yourself in a way that promotes continued wellness. Take preventative measures to stay healthy or stop a further decline in health. 

Ultimately, the better your self-care routine, the less likely you will require medical intervention (although never hesitate to seek medical advice if you have any concerns about your health!).

Isn’t self-care selfish?

In today’s non-stop, hectic world, self-care has become a guilt-ridden indulgence rather than a critical aspect of our daily routine, helping us reach our potential and live happier, healthier lives. 

There’s nothing selfish about self-care, just as there is nothing selfish about taking measures to keep yourself safe such as looking twice before you cross the street or eating regular meals because you know it benefits your health. 

What’s more, self-care filters out to others in your circle; it’s particularly important for people who care for others – your own cup must be full in order to tend to the needs of other people effectively.

10 Simple self-care practices

Self-care practices include simple actions such as expressing your feelings, taking a break from the desk or from work, and eating healthily and regularly. 

Here are 10 simple ways you can practice self-care every day:

1. Time out
Take a moment to pause and reflect. Shut down your thinking mind for a while, breathe deeply and simply enjoy where you are, right now! Some people call this “mindfulness”. 
Doing this promotes clarity, reduces stress and allows you to focus on what’s important. Head to your happy place!

2. Food 
Eat well! Gut health is important not only for your physical wellbeing but also for your emotional health. The ‘soup’ of bacteria that sits in your gut dictates how you react in different situations by influencing your level of anxiety and sense of safety. 

Gut bacteria produces chemicals such as dopamine, which influences mood, and norepinephrine, which is involved in the body’s stress (fight or flight) mechanisms. 
Healthy eating really does make a difference. 

3. Assertiveness 
Ever say “yes” when you really mean “no”? 
When others people constantly breach your boundaries it can whittle away at your self-esteem. Self-care means having the strength to say ‘no’ and ensuring that you live life by the values that make you feel comfortable. 

4. Exercise
This is self-explanatory: exercise is good for your physical and mental wellbeing. Even if it’s difficult to find the time, the act of taking a walk or an exercise class, jogging or cycling, etc. is an invaluable aspect of self-care which will pay dividends to your long-term quality of life.

5. Appreciate nature
How often do you walk along without really noticing the way the clouds are dancing overhead or the way the sun feels on your skin or the beauty of the trees as they blossom into spring or fade into autumn in a blaze?

Appreciating nature is good for the soul.

6. Limit your exposure to bad news
Of course, we can’t avoid life altogether but neither do we have to court bad news by watching every horror announcement on TV and clicking on trending bad news stories all the time. Try to consciously seek out good news rather than looking at the negative, of which there is a never-ending supply.

7. Healthy sleep practices
Everybody needs different amounts of sleep. Whether you need six hours’ or eight hours’ sleep, develop health sleep practices such as checking the room temperature (the optimal temperature for sleep is between 15.6 to 19.4⁰C), limiting your exposure to blue light from a TV screen or digital device, and doing something to relax before bed rather than trying to hit the sack with a mind still whirring from the day’s events. 

Remember that sleep rejuvenates the body; this is when your mind processes the day that has just been and regenerates your body for the next one.

8. Be your own best friend
Catch yourself in negative self-talk patterns and be a little kinder to yourself. Show compassion for the things that don’t quite work to plan, and make sure you show some appreciation for the things you do achieve, no matter how small.

9. Phone a friend
Make time for your relationships outside of work. Having quality connections with other people, whether it’s a romantic relationship or having good friends, or a sense of belonging within your neighbourhood or with like-minded people, time spent nurturing these will lead to a healthier, happier life. 

Isn’t it time you caught up for a chat?

10. Seek out happiness
Every day, make sure you sure you do an activity that lights you up inside. Rediscover a hobby, be creative, watch a comedy film – just be happy! 

Even if you can only squeeze in 10 minutes of time for yourself, be sure to nurture your sense of joy. 

Caring for every part of your being

Let’s take a deeper look at the different aspects of self-care (physical, mental, emotional and spiritual). 

Physical self-care

For many people, physical self-care is the most obvious aspect of self-care to fulfil. 

Nutritious food, regular meals

Physical self-care includes eating regular, balanced and healthy meals, ensuring you get the right nutrition which contributes to good health. (This also includes drinking enough water.)

Exercise

Exercise is, of course, another way to care for your physical needs: regular walking, jogging and yoga are some of the ways you can achieve this. For people with limited mobility, there are always adapted exercises you can find; ask your medical practitioner for advice on this. 

As a by-product of exercise you’ll also feel happier, since you’ll be triggering feel-good hormones called endorphins, which are known to decrease pain and elevate the mood, as well as reducing the body’s stress hormones, lowering adrenaline and cortisol. So exercise also serves self-care at the emotional level, too. 

Sleep

Getting enough sleep for your needs is essential not only for the physical aspect of yourself but emotionally, too. 

This means going to bed at a reasonable hour, ensuring the temperature in your bedroom is conducive to sleep, and setting yourself up for a good night by not eating too much just before bed. Be sure to switch off phones, computers, TVs and other blue light-emitting devices an hour before you go to sleep, as these disrupt the circadian rhythm, the body’s natural, in-built cycle of sleep and wakefulness, which is largely based around the sun’s activities and the light cues it offers for rest and alertness. 

For shift workers, it’s a little harder; however, blackout curtains, eye masks and earplugs can help to prepare you for sleep. 

Carrying out relaxing activities such as mindfulness, simple breathing exercises, or reading a good book are effective ways to coax your body and mind to shed the adrenaline of the day. 

The key is to ensure that your body is getting the sleep it requires to be fully alert when you wake up. For some people, this means eight hours straight; others can get away with as little as a six-hour sleep or less. 

Know what amount of you require and make sure you’re taking the required amount of shut-eye!

Emotional self-care

Are you aware of your emotions? How do you feel right now? If you put your emotional wellbeing first, you’ll have more energy for life and will naturally take positive steps to meet your goals. 

Being kind to yourself 

An example of this is finding time for a comforting bath, to read a good book or another activity that brings you inner peace and joy. Whatever you choose to do, be sure that it’s guilt-free and is something that aligns with the other strands of self-care; i.e. it should be something that supports your health and happiness. Be playful!

Positive self-talk

Also known as ‘being kind to yourself’, positive self-talk can be difficult to master. In fact, many people are unaware that they are being unkind to themselves as it is often done subconsciously. 

Negative self-talk can be linked to core beliefs about yourself which may have been handed to you, rather than observations based in fact. 

How many times do you give yourself kudos for a job well done? Or do you quickly move on to the next task on your to-do list while berating yourself for not achieving as much as you’d hoped? 

For people who aren’t used to giving themselves some inner praise, start by noticing any negative self-talk and challenging it. 

Did you really screw up or did you do your very best and the outcome wasn’t quite what you expected? Were there external factors beyond your control at play? So perhaps you did a great job, given the circumstances? 

It can take a while to conquer negative self-talk but the rewards are that you’ll feel more confident, motivated and happier. 

If you still find it difficult to stop the negative self-talk, trying role playing as your best friend. 

Think about it: would you really talk to your best friend in such a callous, uncaring way or would you use a kinder turn of phrase or seek to comfort and encourage them? 

Being assertive

Being assertive, in a non-aggressive way, is key to your emotional and psychological wellbeing. It means setting boundaries; not being talked into something you really don’t want to do; and addressing things that rankle you about someone else’s behaviour before they become bigger issues. 

Psychological/mental self-care

Your mental health underpins your emotional wellbeing and feeds into your physical health, too.

Consciously look for GOOD news

Bad news is prolific. Do you obsess about watching the news? Seek out the latest disaster? While keeping up with what’s going on in the world is important, there are times when we can all use a little break from the headline-grabbing devastation that appears to be happening around us. 

The saying “no news is good news” is true here. Switch off from newspapers, news reports on the TV or your phone, nasty social media posts etc. for a while – see how much more positive you are as a result. 


Keep your mind active

Do a puzzle: challenge your mind! Keep your brain healthy and your mind active by mastering something new, reading a book or an activity which inspires you to flourish mentally. Making time for something that stimulates you is important for keeping yourself sharp and positively influencing your mental wellbeing – especially in later years. 


Spiritual self-care

Spiritual self-care might seem more obscure but it is simply about context and connection: having a sense of purpose about your life and the experiences you have, and feeling connected to your inner self and the universe. It is about nurturing your true spirit – that part of you that throbs in the centre of your being, invisible but profoundly palpable. 

Spiritual self-care doesn’t necessarily have to include religion; although attending a mosque, a church, a religious ceremony, event, or prayer and religious rituals offer many people a deeper sense of life’s meaning.

Appreciate nature

Take a walk in nature or take time to appreciate the natural world. Being aware of nature is a reminder of how good life can be. 

The abundance of trees and grass, or leaves on your indoor plant; the bright blue sky; a breath of clean air or even the countless raindrops on the window can add to your sense of wonder about the world around you and increase your sense of gratitude at being alive to witness it. 

Nurture your goals

Psychological self-care can include nurturing your goals: a PB when you’re out running or walking, having a good interview (even if you didn’t get the job, you’re still pushing towards your goal), or writing that book is essential to your mental wellbeing. 

A sense of achievement, no matter how small, is what makes us human. Take small steps towards your goals and appreciate every part of the journey – and the efforts you make – towards them. 

Conclusion

Self-care doesn’t necessarily mean lavishing yourself with expensive gifts, taking extended holidays or popping off to the spa for a break; in fact, self-care doesn’t depend on money or time. 

Taking care of your needs emotionally, physically and mentally can start as small as finding five minutes to simply ‘be’ with yourself. Take time out that’s just for you: put your hand over your heart and listen to your heartbeat, and acknowledge your innermost thoughts and beliefs without judgement.  

Try this simple practice, and with time you’ll realise how unselfish self-care really is and start to incorporate some of the tips above. 

Often the different areas of self-care overlap. 

By taking care of your physical needs, you also tend to the emotional part of your wellbeing, too. For example, cooking and eating a meal that you enjoy, or even ordering something as a treat, gives you a positive emotional boost. Making time for a bath, especially when you take the trouble to carve out a few moments during a busy schedule, can boost your self-esteem. 

With little acts of kindness, you’re telling yourself: ‘I deserve it’. 

Do you love yourself enough to practise a little self-care?

Share your thoughts on this blog in the comments below. 

Do you have tips and practices to share about wellbeing? Contact Wellness Books to discuss how to publish your wellbeing book. Take the first step by emailing us at info@wellnessbooks.co.uk. 

by Shirley Mclellan 22 August 2024
From wars of words to actual wars, with bombings and killings, to rioting in the streets and the rise of extremism on both left and right, those of us of a more spiritual bent might very well be finding these times of turbulence trying, to say the least. Many of our readers are spiritual beings. That is to say, we recognise our divinity and seek greater connection between ourselves and a higher power. But how can we balance the sanctity of our innerscape with the chaotic external world around us? Looking out at the world we live in, it’s easy to get pulled back into the duality of things in the physical realm and be lured into the black-and-white, right-and-wrong debates that are going on all around. Here are a few things you can do to retain that stillness of mind that you’ve probably worked so hard to achieve. 1. Remaining grounded in nature Remaining grounded in nature is a great way to shake off the trauma of hearing bad news reports and fearmongering, day in and day out. When we step out of our narrow world and seek solace in the beauty that surrounds us, bad news simply fades into the background and we can return to a place of gratitude, inner joy and peace. Taking time for a stroll in the park or a walk along the beach, or to watch an ant busily maintaining its nest or a butterfly flitting from place to place, reminds us of the simpler things in life, and the beauty of it. Being in nature reminds us of something that’s solid and real, rather than the constant shifting of politics and the whims of another nature: human nature. 2. Meditation Check in with your inner landscape regularly. Whether you meditate by sitting still and becoming aware of your breath, or going for a stroll, or mindfully doing your chores, it all counts. Meditative time spent listening to the calming ‘white noise’ of life, such as a babbling brook or even your own breathing, helps anchor us to the present moment and to a higher power, helping us to remember that there’s something bigger than the chaos we can see surrounding us, and that there’s a beautiful symmetry to life that’s ever-present and guiding us to a better future. 3. Trust your intuition Trusting your intuition will help you navigate the world around us. From fake news to a society that’s obsessed with external appearances, checking in with your intuition and trusting in it is essential. Often, we’ll find the answers we need inside, rather than looking for it on the outside; and if you ask, you might even get signs to help you along the way, such as repeating numbers to remind you that you’re being supported from beyond, or a white feather in an unlikely spot, or another sign that you’re on the right path. What do you do to help navigate the turbulence of our times? Could you help someone else find peace? If you’re a writer and you’d like to publish your book with us, contact us for the next steps and, together, let’s make this world a little better and brighter! Email us at info@wellnessbooks.co.uk today.
by Shirley Mclellan 1 February 2024
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by Shirley Mclellan 20 September 2023
Writer’s block is a little like trying to grow miniature roses (have you ever tried it?); getting those darn little buds to open up requires a lot of patience and tender-loving care. When you hit a block like this, it’s a delicate balance: you need to finish your book but the words aren’t coming. You’ve hit the wall. Yet, more you struggle against writer’s block, the deeper you may sink into it. If this sounds like you, keep reading for some of my best tips to help those cogs start turning again! 1. Take a break Step away from your book for a while. This advice probably feels seems counter-productive, but stick with me here. Time away, especially if it’s time that you give back to yourself, doing things such as taking a stroll, meditating or exercising your creative muscle in a different way such as painting or drawing, will give your artistic side space to breathe. Sometimes all you need is space in order for your creative juices to start flowing along nicely once again. So, go away and focus on something else that fills you up, and that you enjoy. If your block lasts for a few days, don’t beat yourself up – go with it, ask yourself why are you blocked? Do some digging and figure out what’s stopping you and use your writer’s block as a fact-finding mission to explore your inner world and grow as a writer and as a human. Allow any ideas you come up with, to flow again and you’ll be banging out words on a keyboard again (or jotting on your notepad) in no time at all. If your block is lasting longer than, say, a few weeks, then read on – you’ll need a heavy-duty intervention to keep your book on track. 2. Mark your milestones Writing is like using a certain muscle; we have to keep exercising it, otherwise its power simply fades away. In keeping with the analogy, writing a book can feel a little like a marathon; it takes time, dedication and practice. Use markers along the way, similar to a marathon runner, who takes each step at a time and whittles away at the miles ahead by celebrating each small milestone. So, get down to it and remember to give yourself a huge pat on the back when you’re a quarter of the way through, halfway through, and especially when the end is in sight, because this can be the hardest part – so don’t stop the forward momentum! 3. Relax Relaxing is absolutely key to writing. When you’re writing, you’re using the creative part of your brain, rather than the logical, black-or-white side of it. Creative writing is a “soft-focus” skill, whereas analysing something is “hard” and laser-like. To get back to your writing, relax completely – let go of all the worries, stress, critical-thinking and allow your mind to wander to a happier place. Choose to do this in whatever way suits you best, be it a lovely hot bath or a walk or jog in the country, or a film. After a few hours of proper relaxation, without thinking about your book at all, you’ll come back full of new ideas, having resolved whatever challenges you had with writing your book, and raring to get back to work on it. Remember to enjoy the process of writing a book! 4. Don’t compare your work to anyone else’s It’s natural to compare ourselves – and for others to compare our work – with someone else’s. While that can be an interesting exercise, while we’re writing it can lead to feelings of not being good enough. Don’t try to mimic anybody else; the wonderful thing about your book is that it is unique to you. You have a one-of-a-kind perspective on the world and your gift is to express that in a way that only you can do. While it’s a good idea to check out what others are writing about, following book trends and admiring the work of others, we writers are often hyper-critical of our own work and comparing it with someone else can put a serious stop to our creative flow. The best solution is to write in a silo and don’t compare your book with another until you’ve finished writing it. 5. Discipline Discipline is the key to unblocking yourself as a writer. If all else fails, simply plough on and keep writing; it’s what marks the would-be writers from the published authors. Writing can be a lonely existence which requires us to switch off our phone and other distractions, and simply get down to it – no excuses. There’s really no other way around it. The more you write, the more you get used to the discipline of sitting for long hours in front of a machine or notebook. Just pick up the pen, or ready your fingers over the keyboard, and write! If this sounds too daunting, then start with an hour, then build up to spending more and more time penning your book. Sometimes the words feel as if they’re not flowing but if you get down to it, treating writing as a discipline that you have to keep practising, then your creative mind will kick in eventually. What you write doesn’t matter; what matters is that you write. Get into the habit of writing anything; let it be a stream of consciousness, or what’s known as “channelled writing”. Once you’ve started doing this, you’re exercising that creative muscle we’ve talked about, and it’ll become easier to do it at will. Soon, you’ll be back to writing your book again. The great thing about this exercise is that you might find other book ideas coming to you; it’s worth keeping what you’ve written because you might look back at it and realise you’ve conceived of some amazing stuff. Need help to write your book? Contact info@wellnessbooks.co.uk for advice or to talk through our services; we can help with the development of your book, editing and proofreading right through to publishing your book.
by Shirley Mclellan 21 July 2023
Writing a book is a time-consuming task that takes dedication and a fair deal of mental stamina. Lots of people can relate: you have a great book you’ve been thinking of writing but when it comes down to it, there’s no time to get started. So, the question is, can AI write your book for you? And isn't it cheating? Artificial Intelligence (AI) is everywhere, and it’s been dominating news headlines for a few years, with arguments for and against both its ethics and safety. Yet, in spite of those concerns, AI is here to stay and already some people are setting it to the task of writing a book, or writing the book they want to write, on their behalf. Confusing, huh? I mean, how could a machine write your book for you? AI, for anyone who’s been living under a rock in the past few years, is the abbreviated version of Artificial Intelligence. It means, in simplistic terms, a machine that is capable of undertaking the type of intelligent function as a human brain can. ChatGPT is an example of AI, and perhaps the one you may have heard of, and there are others, such as Google Bard. ChatGPT an AI chatbot created by AI research company OpenAI. It is supported by Microsoft. It uses machine learning – processing masses of data collected from across the internet – to create such as stories, articles, essays and blogs, which mimic text created by a human. To get started with ChatGPT, you can simply sign up for a free account and then ask a question. The technology works by answering questions, or prompts, which generates strings of text in response. You can also ask it to write prose and poetry; simply tell it the topic. The beauty of AI is that one article, which might take a professional writer hours or even days to research and produce, can be created in minutes using this technology. Its ability to find and analyse information in milliseconds, far faster than any human brain, is phenomenal. It’s so sophisticated that it can be difficult to tell whether a piece of work has been produced by artificial intelligence or whether a real, live human is behind it. This is a double-edged sword, and is the reason why AI is being banished by a growing number of schools, as some school cheats have been submitting essays created by the technology. Plagiarism is a big problem when it comes to AI, because AI sources its information from the slew of information that is the internet – causing a headache in terms of intellectual property as it muddies the waters as to whom copyright should be attributed. Fears that AI could decimate the industry have been part of recent discussions between Hollywood writers and producers , too, with the writers concerned that their jobs will be taken over by machines – truly the stuff of sci-fi novels, with life imitating art, imitating life! So, can you write a book using AI? The answer is, yes! Lots of companies are using AI to create the e-books that we sometimes see drop into our inbox from a brand we like. It stands to reason that its ability to handle short books such as e-books will soon lend itself to larger writing tasks. A more pressing question is, should you write a book using AI? A growing number of commercial books are also being produced by AI, and are being sold on Amazon. Many of the writers who’ve used AI to ghostwrite their book have credited AI with the work along with their own author name on the copyright page of the book – some even receiving five-star reviews on the site . However, there are suspected to be untold numbers passing off entire AI-produced books as their own, leaving other writers, from whom the work may have been copied, in a precarious position in regards to their rights as the original artist. Another reason to think twice about writing your book with AI, is that while AI has huge potential, it’s still fraught with pitfalls. For example, it lacks the ability to make the judgement calls that a writer must make while working on a book. This could lead to an increase in misinformation, rather dangerous territory. If you’re thinking of using AI to write your book, another consideration might be this: there’s something magical about writing a book, and the satisfaction of completing the mission, is, of course, lost when we bring AI into the equation. Finally, writing a book can boost your credibility as a thought-leader; imagine how, then, how your reputation could be impacted by the admission that the work is not your own but that of a machine? Or worse, using AI to help you write a book while claiming all the credit – only to be “outed” further down the road? Can AI produce a book as well as a human? A keen-eyed copy editor can probably tell the difference between human-made and AI-created copy. For starters, text produced by AI lacks, for lack of a better phrase, that human touch. Yes, AI can spew out facts and string complex sentences together, with all the appearance of having some understanding, which is part of its appeal. However, it often lacks the cadence in and between its words that is uniquely human. The nuance that’s alive in human communication is something it may never be able to replicate. Also, the best non-fiction books are relatable; that is, they’re written by real people with real stories and lives that may resonate with others. AI is missing the key ingredient that makes a great non-fiction book – or fiction book, for that matter. Would I use ChatGPT to write a book? I'm perched on the fence on this one, both cursing AI for its potential to destroy one of the last bastions of what it means to be human, giving up even our prosody to a machine, while simultaneously aware of its potential to help people churn out blogs and articles in an information-hungry world. For small businesses like this, for example, with a low marketing budget, this could really level the playing field. Regardless of my opinion, the likes of ChatGPT and AI are here to stay, and it may just be a new era, with many positives to arise from it, without the destruction to industry, and eventually humankind, that we’re being warned about. Whether you choose to write a book yourself or “cheat” by using AI, the choice is yours, but please take into consideration what you’ll be missing out on if you choose to do the latter. At Wellness Books, we look for quality books with a message meant to be shared with the wider public or information that could serve to enhance someone else’s health, wellness and vitality on every level. If you need a human hand to edit it, and a helping hand through the publishing process, get in touch. Ready to get started? Email info@wellnessbooks.co.uk with an outline of your book and your contact number so we can schedule a call with you.
27 April 2023
An always-on culture, packed commuter trains, too much information, rising costs, bad news, endless to-do lists, FOMO (fear of missing out), and existential threat from nuclear weapons and environmental damage! It’s no wonder why so many people suffer from stress and anxiety when we’re faced with a barrage of stressors on a daily basis – we can easily feel overwhelmed by it all. As it’s National Stress Awareness Month, we look at stress, what it is, what can cause it, and how we can overcome feelings of stress. Keep reading to find out how you can deal with the stresses of modern-day living. Stressed out? You’re not alone. A 2018 online poll by the Mental Health Foundation and YouGov, the largest study to date investigating stress in the UK, found that almost three-quarters of respondents (74%) felt so stressed they were overwhelmed or unable to cope in the previous year. The greatest causes of stress included health (36%), and debt (22%). Meanwhile, a 2022 survey from YouGov, including 1,242 employees, revealed that more than half (52%) of British workers feel stressed at work. Stress, as we can see, is a pervasive problem in our society – and across the globe. But what is stress, and how can we manage it more effectively? What is stress? According to the World Health Organization, stress is “ a state of worry or mental tension caused by a difficult situation ”. The UK’s National Health Service describes stress as “the body's reaction to feeling threatened or under pressure ”, and further states that when we’re under stress, our body releases the “fight or flight” hormone adrenaline. In other words, when we’re under pressure, our bodies respond by preparing us to take action, such as running away. Stress can affect us not only physically but also impact our emotions, and, over time, can impaction the way we function, our relationships and our self-esteem. Too much stress is also linked to anxiety and depression. If allowed to continue for a long time, stress can lead to burnout. How do I know I’m suffering from stress? The symptoms of stress can vary, as can its severity between people faced with the same life circumstances. This isn’t a matter of judging one person to be weaker than another, but simply means that some are naturally more resilient to stressors, just as one person’s tolerance to physical pain might be different than another’s. This can be due to a number of factors, including how our emotions were handled and nurtured during the developmental stages of childhood, and, of course, our individual make-up and personality. While some stress is necessary – and inevitable – in life, in order to help us evolve as humans, too much of it can culminate in a range of symptoms. Some of the common signs of stress include: Upset stomach Loss of appetite (or increased food consumption as a coping mechanism) Lack of concentration Anxiety Irritability Racing thoughts Inability to make decisions Muscle pain/headache Rashes Feeling sick and/or dizzy Raised blood pressure Recreational drug use/alcohol usage How to combat stress Although a little stress is healthy, too much of it can wreak havoc in our lives. Here are some tips to help you cope with unnecessary amounts of stress in your life. Cross non-essentials from your to-do list. Deep breathing can help us to navigate stress. Try breathing into your belly for several breaths. This sends the body ‘safe’ signals, helping you to stay calm. Take a walk in nature. Express yourself. Either talk to a trusted friend or relative, or use journalling to write down your feelings. Get sufficient sleep. Stick to a routine, waking up, going to bed and eating at the same time every day. Take regular exercise to help burn off excess energy. Limit exposure to the news (especially bad news). Schedule time away from pinging computers/phones and gadgets. Chew gum! Research has provided some evidence that chewing gum can reduce feelings of stress. It’s thought that the practice of chewing gum helps to reduce our focus on external stressors and limit the spread of stress signals through the brain’s stress network. Just remember to use sugar-free gum! If you’re suffering from stress/anxiety, which is having a detrimental impact on your life, your health and/or relationships, contact your GP for advice. Can you offer valuable advice about stress or another wellbeing topic? Thinking of writing a book? Contact Wellness Books to discuss publishing your book with us today. Email info@wellnessbooks.co.uk now!
19 January 2023
It’s mid-January and the New Year celebrations are already a distant memory…and what about the resolutions you made? Have they fallen by the wayside? Here are some New Year resolutions that you’ll want to keep (remember, you can reset any time of the year, not just on the first of January!) Spend more time in nature Be kinder (to yourself and others) Fall in love with healthy food Fall out of love with junk food Accept yourself Get acquainted with your internal environment (listening to the stillness within) Discover a hobby that you love Be happy Carve more time out just for YOU Make every moment count Can you offer life-changing advice? Is your New Year's Resolution to finish writing your book? If your book could help others, let us help you publish it. Contact Wellness Books at info@wellnessbooks.co.uk.
17 November 2022
It’s easy to be swept away in the nervous and chaotic energy that seems to be so prevalent across the world right now. Rediscover your zen with these top tips to help you navigate the fearful trend that’s happening and find calm in the midst of the storm. Balance the bad news with the good Many people are addicted to bad news. We’re connected at all times with horrific news headlines, which might pop up on our devices during the day, or we might sit down to watch or listen to the news on TV in the morning and repeat the experience in the evening or multiples times in the day. Have you ever thought about what this is doing to your body? When we absorb all this bad news, we’re activating our own fight or flight system within the body; we might tense parts of our body, our heart rate quickens and our breathing becomes more shallow. We’re getting ready to flee or to fight – yet there’s nowhere to run to, and nobody to fight, unless we pick a fight with our partner or neighbour or some other innocent bystander. Not only does our addiction to bad news harm our own wellbeing, but we also prime ourselves for more bad news, in addition to creating negative waves that ripple out into the world. A few news sites have recognised this and are now focussing solely on disseminating good news, which is available in abundance if only we’ll care to notice it. Try sites such as Positive News or the Happy Newspaper or the Good News Network for happy stories from around the world. Try it and see how much better your day progresses! Be at one with nature Go outside and observe nature; how a tree grows strong through its roots, how a flower blossoms from a bud or how a breeze or a raindrop caresses your face. Being at one with nature has the ability to calm frayed nerves with immediacy, so make sure you spent a little time each day appreciating this natural way to dissipate worries and enhance your enjoyment of life. Be the thing you want to see Start showing up as the thing you want to see in the world. This means that if you want more kindness in the world, then show up as that quality; be kind to everybody you see, try to eliminate unkind thoughts and be more compassionate with your family, friends, colleagues and acquaintances – even the people you meet in the shop or the street. Being kinder will create more kindness and calm in your own world. It nurtures joy inside and impacts your relationships, and even your own relationship with yourself as you’ll be all the more gentle with yourself. It all starts with you, and then ripples out into your outer world. Imagine, that little act of kindness has the power to encourage somebody else to be kinder in turn, and then onto the next person and the next. You’re creating a wave of kindness. Could you teach others how to calm their nerves? Are you a speaker, healer, survivor, mentor, or have wellbeing knowledge that you want to pass on to others? If you’ve written a book and are considering your publishing options, contact us to find out how to self-publish on your own terms! Email Wellness Books: info@wellnessbooks.co.uk today.
21 October 2022
Happiness is the one goal we all have in common. In one way or another, we’re all searching for it, whether it’s through our work, family, friends or social activities. However, at times happiness can seem elusive. Bad news, toxic relationships, poor working conditions, loss and trauma can stifle the joy; we can get pulled into a downward spiral, often even subconsciously creating our own unhappiness while mistakenly thinking we’re paving the way to being happy. Use the following 3 tips to transform into a happier, more carefree YOU! 1. Appreciate the happiness you have Everybody has moments, even many moments, of happiness in their life, often we just don’t allow ourselves to feel it, perhaps worrying about something in the future or regretting something in the past. Rather than holding out for an expression of happiness which is pegged on something beyond your control, such as a lottery win or some seemingly impossible dream, instead, recognise happiness for what it is: a lovely, sunny day; a walk in the park; hearing a child’s laughter; whatever good health you do possess. If you’re waiting for happiness, you’ll miss the happiness that’s already abundant in your life…just look around and you’ll find it! Notice and count the number of happy moments in your day. You might be surprised at how they stack up. 2. Count your blessings! Have you ever noticed that when things go wrong, they really go wrong? Your stub your toe, break your favourite cup, something breaks and the bad luck seems to spiral…the same is true of good things, too. When you count your blessings and have appreciation for what you have, you’ll find more things to be happy about. Happiness begets happiness. Remember to be grateful for all the things that bring you happiness and you’ll soon find that your happiness multiplies. Say thank you for every good thing that happens in your life and more wonderful things come your way! 3. Make room for more happiness There’s nothing like self-care to help you lead a happier life. Carve out time for yourself, do more of what you enjoy and allow yourself a little joy. Sometimes we deny ourselves happiness because we’re too busy dealing with the realities of life or we feel unworthy. Happiness sometimes needs cultivating, so go ahead and be happy – because you deserve it. Find time every day to do something that puts a smile on your face; be it exercise, singing along to your favourite music without a care, watching a funny movie or catching up with someone who always makes you smile. Are you an expert on happiness, self-care or another wellness topic? Publish with Wellness Books. We’ll take care of the self-publishing process for you. Become an author! Contact info@wellnessbooks.co.uk to get started.
by Shirley Mclellan 23 August 2022
If you want to write a book or have already started writing a book and are flagging, this post is just what you need: 7 wonderful benefits of writing a book to help motivate the writer in you! Your book could help somebody else No matter what the topic of your book, there’s certain to be another person who could benefit from reading it. Your wellness book could be of huge benefit to someone else; in other words, your writing is serving a much greater purpose than you might realise. Books beget thought-leadership Become a leader in your field; after you’ve written your book, you may well find yourself becoming to go-to person for guidance or knowledge about your specialism. The catharsis of creativity (get well as you write) Your own experiences can start to make sense. Free yourself from your own limiting beliefs as you’re writing your book. An additional line of income While not many writers are able to retire from the royalties they receive from a single book (although exceptional authors and books have the potential to make a great deal of money), it’s nice to know that your book is quietly earning you some extra cash in book sales. (Wellness Books will provide you with a sales report and send you your money from the sales of your book every six months!) The window of opportunity widens When you’ve written a book, the world is your oyster – you can go on to become a consultant in your specialist subject, take on speaking engagements, become a pioneer in your field and, naturally, write some more. If you write a great book, lots of doors can open, beckoning lots of opportunities. Stand out! Writing a book is an incredible achievement, requiring self-discipline, grit, and, of course, writing talent, which not many people manage to accomplish. When you become an author it’s a very special moment. Become immortal! You may not live forever, but your book will; in effect, immortalising you, the author, since the book will exist in perpetuity long after you’ve gone. Imagine who might be reading your book in the future… Whether you're writing a wellness book for yourself or others, contact info@wellnessbooks.co.uk to find out about our publishing options.
24 February 2022
1. Writing things down, whether journaling or creative writing, can help you clarify situations, events and even your thoughts, allowing you to gain a sense of perspective or a different perspective on problems. A different perspective is often all that’s needed to begin to resolve your own issues. The more you heal yourself, the more you can extend that healing to others. 2. Writing is a healthy way to express yourself – humans are social creatures, and communicating with others is part of our DNA. Clamping down on our voice is unnatural; writing offers a healthy way to express your inner world and let your unique voice be heard…you were born to do it! 3. Help others through your experiences – you might be surprised by how much sharing aspects of your life and events could help another person gain perspective in their own lives, and how much, in turn, helping others helps you, too. Contact us today at info@wellnessbooks.co.uk to discuss your book and find out how we can help to get it published.
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